Yesterday I had to be the "boss." I had to confront an employee who has been having job performance "issues." Not pleasant because I abhor playing the supervisor even though, technically, that is what I am.
Problem is, I would prefer everyone "like me." When I know someone is irritated with me I cannot stand it! But why?
This presents a major conflict with my job position. Working nights, I also have my own ward along with being building supervisor. We keep everything pretty low key but occassionally things come up that I have to address and I can hardly do it. I have no idea how to fix this. I don't want people to walk all over me yet I don't want to be the type of supervisor everyone dreads.
I just want to be liked. How is this money related? Well, I think this tendency bleeds into other aspects of my life. Like my children. I want them to be liked too. Hence the clothing and the grades and the sports. etc... I want them to always do the right thing so people will like them too.
Is this some kind of genetic defeciency? My grandmother is the same way but at the same time my mom is practically a hermit who could care less what people think of her. Maybe I am reacting to the way my mom raised me.
Maybe I need a counselor.
I just know yesterday was awful. Did I mention I also hate confrontation? Burying my head in the sand and pretending conflict and tension don't exist has always been another tendency of mine. This has exacerbated the horrid state of my finances. I used to be terrified to look at my credit card statements AND get my mail. So you know what I did? Nothing. I didn't get my mail and I didn't look at my statements until the mailbox door wouldn't shut and the phone kept ringing from bill collectors.
I have to get over this notion that life is like a happy cartoon. It's not. This is my dilemma I need to CONFRONT.
Thanks for listening to my ramblings.
Why does everyone need to like me?
December 6th, 2008 at 06:12 am
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December 6th, 2008 at 04:24 pm 1228580692
Having just re-entered the work force, I had forgotten all the crap that goes along with working in an office of women. I HATE it.
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December 6th, 2008 at 08:29 pm 1228595387
Well, just do what you need to do and try not to dwell on it. Chances are, you're thinking about it way more than they are.
December 6th, 2008 at 10:22 pm 1228602149
sometimes even if it's uncomfortable you just have to do it. i have one girl at the moment who is very lazy. she will spend hours on a small job just so she can stand in one spot and do something slowly. she will also sit ON THE FLOOR and mix something in a bowl (i work in a kitchen). as much as i do honeslty want her to like me, when something like that happens you have to put the job before what your work colleague thinks of you, especially if they are doing the wrong thing.